I was asked this question a long time ago. At first my reaction was simple ‘of course I am living life’. After all I was going out with friends, heading to the mountains on weekends…… yet something was missing. The question kept nagging at me. It took years to find the answer to the question I hadn’t realized I was asking myself; I wasn’t living. I was going through the motions of life.
Life was a routine. I told myself that I was happy. I would go to work at my typical 9-5 job, commute home, have supper and then use my free time. Typically this meant watching TV or going to a restaurant, pub or other normal urban activities. I had a solid 4hrs of time to myself once I was done work and the commute. I was always excited for Fridays (TGIF!) and would plan out what I would do to keep my life ‘fun’.
This is typical of most people’s lives in the modern world: we go to work to pay for the house, car and other expenses. Once work is done we fill our time with fun things to counter the stress that we banked while at work. This becomes a cycle. The harder we work the more things we do to fill our time off to counter the increased stress from working harder. More money comes in but also goes out faster. It’s interesting to see how someone who makes $30,000 struggles to pay all the bills and yet someone who makes $200,000 also struggles. Society has primed us to live paycheck to paycheck, no matter what your income is.
I loved my job. It was interesting work; it had challenges so I strove to improve myself to overcome those challenges. I was still having fun with friends and meeting lots of new people. Yet the question still nagged: Am I living life?
In an instant it hit me while I was out with friends. I looked around the restaurant and realized: Everyone in the restaurant was the same. They looked different, dressed differently and acted differently yet…. Their lives were the same. We all would get up early, work, try to squeeze in time for ‘fun’. That was our collective routine. In that moment I felt trapped, I was working hard to afford my midtown apartment, my new car, clothes and social life. I would pay $100 for a dinner one day and stress about bills the next.
Why was I living this life in the city? What was I doing? Was I living my life or surviving it?
If you looked at my bank account, I was surviving. If you looked at my social life I was surviving, if you looked at my work it started at living but became a routine of administrative tasks before I even know what had happened. 2 out of 3 of the major things in my life was only survival. I wasn’t living like I thought I was, I was surviving.Contact
We see what others have done as the furthest we can go. Most people choose what they want to do based on what they have seen others do; they know its possible because it has already been done. If everyone thought this way we would all be riding horses still. No cars, no internet.
People getting ready to go to jobs they don’t like.
People always talk about how miserable they are: at work, in life…. Yet they don’t DO anything about it.
I will not be outworked by anyone else. Period. I WILL succeed.
There will never be a perfect time to do something. You have to create that perfect time, that perfect situation. If you wait then it will not happen.
You will never grow, what is it that you looked at at some point and said that you couldn’t do it? What caused you to limit yourself?
Most people take their greatness with them to the grave. Ideas that were never acted upon.
Greatness is a lot of small things done well.
It doesn’t take any effort to be a loser. It takes no drive, no motivation.
There is 86,400 seconds (or 3600 minutes) in the day. How you use those seconds will define who you will become. You need to have to want to succeed as bad as you need to breath.
Don’t strive for the same level as others, strive to pass the standard, to blow it out of the water and re-define what is possible to those around you.Contact
There is a purity of connection to those around you. It’s up to you to listen to the voice on who to acquaint with and who to avoid. Some will seem to be the perfect package on the surface, but even the best gift in the world is not right if it doesn’t fit into your lifestyle.
Connections are everywhere, amazing people surround us, we just need to sort through all the fakes to find the core group that is honest, has priorities and the energies that we strive for. We feed off the success of those around us and they in turn feed off your success.
A few point form things to help remove a lot of the negativity from your life (It may be a long list but each point is important):